Am I just setting my standards too high? My last question inquired whether or not people thought I was being harsh for not dating single moms. I do sympathize because I was raised by one myself, but dating one is another a story. Nonetheless, I stated the most plausible reasons I could. One of my contacts made an interesting comment. She said I came off as bitter and rigid. Finally, I disclosed to her that I have Asperger's Syndrome which is a mild form of autism. I'm a nice guy, but I'm not a touchy/feely kind of person. However, those who know me well trust me with their lives. A few people explained to me that single mothers have needs. Before anyone makes a judgment, there's something I'd like to say. I never got to pick or choose my disposition. Those women all chose to become pregnant. I know how babies are conceived and they aren't by accident. Yes, condoms can break, but that's why they come in boxes of three. That's also why there are birth control pills, sponges, IUD's, and other contraceptives. Abortion is legal, and there are adoption agencies everywhere. I'm well aware there are rapes and date rapes, but there are also morning after pills. Needless to say, it's much easier to prove you have a child than that you have Asperger's because a child is something tangible. My condition doesn't have an on/off switch. I can't hire a babysitter to look after it for me while I go out of town, nor does it graduate high school, go off to college, become an adult, and bring home grandkids for me to gander at one day. And I can promise anyone reading this our society has far more sympathy for single mothers than they do those on the autism spectrum, though those women chose to have kids. I'm not asking everyone to feel sorry for me; I'm just asking for you to listen. I know for a fact there are woman who would deliberately avoid dating a guy with Asperger's. Often, I feel I might as well tell them I'm HIV-positive. In fact, one woman lost interest explaining she didn't want to be my concierge. I've already dated three single moms and those relationships were train wrecks. The last one I dated lied to me about her kids' father who came after me, and I broke his nose in self-defense. So, am I asking too much to find a woman with no kids at my age? I'm 31 years old, and I'm not getting any younger. Are my expectations unrealistic and impossible? - Asked by daugenstine, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Who Cares? | 