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If you saw a woman being assautled by a man
Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:04 PM - Tuesday October 27, 2009

If you saw a woman being assautled by a man

would you intervene by helping her and calling the police? Or would you assume it is none of your business and not bother? Why or why not?

- Asked by sanguinenight, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Student

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I'd have to do something. I would hope someone would do something for me if the situation was reversed.

- Response by rexy67, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, St.Louis, Retail

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call 911 then walk over or jump out of my car and help her out. done it before.

- Response by jackstraw, A Life of the Party, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?

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I would immediately call 911 and if I felt I could kick his ass I sure would! take his name later...

- Response by msgg, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Retail

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I carry a gun so this wouldn't even have to be asked. There is no NOT helping!

- Response by barrelmom, A Sportif, Female, 46-55, Indianapolis, Transportation

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I wouldn't physically intervence but I would def. help by calling 911.

- Response by Hondaexsweetie, A Life of the Party, Female, 22-25, Financial / Banking

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I would immediately call 911 and if I felt I could kick his ass I sure would! take his name later...

- Response by msgg, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Retail

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I walked right up into the face of a guy with a pipe in his raised hand about to beat a woman and talked him down. No fear. I knew I was mad enough that I had the power. Other time I pulled two drunk guys off my neighbor who got his ear bit off by one of the attackers and chased them off.. all I had was a small stick.. but they knew they had gone too far and that time if they wanted to they could have gotten the better of me, but I could not just stand by... you must take risks sometimes for the betterment of good people and stand up for what is right and wrong, even if it means jumping on a grenade to save others. I would not think twice.

- Response by timeforanoverhaul, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Denver, Self-Employed

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I would at least call the police, man or woman no one should get hit by their s/o

- Response by brown5, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Financial / Banking

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I would hit him with my tazer, and then hand her the phone and let her call 911, but only after she had been given the opportunity to give him a few quick kicks to make sure I didn't hold the button down to long. That away she would know to either ask for the police or an ambulance. It would be her choice. I'm just an innocent bystander reacting to an assault. LOL :D

- Response by txsewbunny101, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Self-Employed

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I would have to try and help her and I would call 911. It should be everyone's business when someone is being assaulted. You can't walk away from this ..One day it might be you. Rosey

- Response by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?

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Well depends on what I saw. If I just saw like two drunk people fighting, one man and one woman and had no idea how it started or who started it I'd probably just think it was hillarious. If however I saw that the man and woman didn't know each other and that the man just attacked her completely unprovoced, I would definitly want to help her. Depending on his size and "combat fitness" I might intervene myself, or I would just call the cops. I'm not terribly scared of a fight, but I'm not going to take a beating on general principle. If I thought I could take him I'd give it a go, but I have no desire to end my life in a parking trying to hold my guts in waiting for an ambulance. If I didn't think I could safely stop him, I'd stay out of it and just call them cops.

- Response by mrinsano, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 22-25, London, Student

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In a second! Unless he has a gun, I'll jump him and beat the shit out of him.

- Response by italiangypsy, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Philadelphia, Other Profession

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I would definitely call 911 - there is no doubt that I would do that. And I'd be screaming for help, and ff there was any other way I could assist her - like throwing something at him or kicking him - I would do that, too.

- Response by justpassingthru, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Financial / Banking

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Well im a pretty little women so I would call 911 and let them deal with it...

- Response by bebekitti, A Married Girl, Female, 26-28, Home Maker

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not only should you call the police but you should run over there and try to stop him! What kind of question is that! 2 women could take down one man.

- Response by kagurahime, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Student

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Call 911 & then get my butt over there to hopefully break it up. WHY? I would hope someone would do that for me!

- Response by firechick, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Portland, Celebrity

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id like to think id intervene. never know though.

- Response by foonlord, A Creative, Male, 26-28, San Francisco, Internet / New Media

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i would intervene coz it might be me being assaulted one day and i would want someone to help me.

- Response by tendai, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Medical / Dental

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I would call the cops and give a few select words to the bastard, but I wouldn't get involved physically as I am small myself with a baby and can't risk us getting hurt.

I would definitely call the cops though, and expect a larger man near by to intervene.

- Response by milla, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35

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is that before or after I hit his ass with my big stick?

- Response by A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, New Orleans, Transportation

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ABC did a investigative story on this what would you do, Having a fake coupel fight. Many people went to help her /called 911. Unfortunately when it was the woman assaulting the man. the main respeonse by women was "you go girl, he deserves to be beaten"

- Response by jjcabin, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Washington, DC, Technical

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I saw this happen with other friends while we were leaving the beach. The woman and the man were in a laundry mat and he punched her on the face hard she fell down. Than some guy that was at the laudry mat pushed the guy and the assualter kept walking away another direction the guy that intervened kicked him on his back. Once we saw this we called the cops immediately. The cops were there in less than 10 mins thank goodness. I would definately call the police no woman deserves to be beat by no man.

- Response by An Alternative Girl, Female, 22-25

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I believe that I would help. But nobody can say for sure what they'd do until they find themselves in that situation.

- Response by mikehug, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Cleveland

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OF COURSE! yes to both. If he was seriously beating on her I'd call 911 and then jump on him like a monkey and try and get him to stop. lol But usually just yelling, "Hey! Stop that!" is enough to scare someone off. I don't know how anyone could just walk away from that.

- Response by TheSshhmoe, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Student

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I would and I have.In my case I intervened as part of my job. I was a bartender in a restaurant .A waitress I worked with was being assaulted by her boyfriend in the parking lot. I called the police. I approached them, told him I had called the police and to stop. He didn't, so with the help of the manager we restrained him and took her inside the restaurant. The police arrived took him into custody. She decided not to press charges, she quit that night and we never heard from her again. He pressed charges agaisnt me and the manager the charges were dismissed. It doesn't always turn out the way you expect.

- Response by redbone, A Career Man, Male, 56-65, Food Service

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I would intervene, I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I just stood by and did nothing.

- Response by avatar83, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 26-28, Teaching

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this is a very interesting question. as most responders have stated, i would most certainly call the police, but physically intervening is something i would think twice about; even if i were a man.

domestic violence and spousal abuse are more than just physical assaults. they are also assaults on a person's psyche. abused people tend to sympathize with their abusers; this often makes it difficult to help them leave their abusive situation. i always wondered why people were so reluctant to get involved in this particular type of crime and then i saw learned of two abusive situations. one situation was a woman who worked for the same company as i did. on several occasions her husband physically assaulted her and having no one else to turn to she sought the assistance of people at work. each time she asked for help, the people at work did what they could to help her get away from him and each time she went back to him. there came a point where not only did people not want to help her, but they didn't want to be around her at all because of all of the negativity and violence that constantly surrounded her.

in the second situation a male friend of mine saw a woman being beaten (not just assaulted but beaten by a man) he jumped in to stop the guy and the woman took off her high heeled shoes and started hitting him with them. just in case you are not clear, the woman who was being beaten, started hitting the man who jumped in to help her because she was afraid he was going to hurt the man that was beating her.

these situations may seem rare to some of you, but if you have ever worked around or been a friend to someone who is allowing themselves to be abused, you know just how very real and common situations like these are.

- Response by darchie, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Chicago

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being a woman and not wanting to get hurt i'd call the police and stay near to make sure that she is ok.

- Response by phenomenal1woman, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Chicago

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I saw this go down in a park one day. I slowed my walk, to finally stop right in front of them & I said "excuse me" & I calmly asked him to leave her alone. He walked away, I asked her if she was ok and can I help. She said no and went on her own way. Why did I help, cuz it freaked the hell out of me and I couldn't just keep walking and ignore this

- Response by sluggo, A Couch Potato, Male, 36-45, Transportation

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I would call the police. While waiting for the police to arrive, I would look for someone who was physically strong enough to stop the man.

- Response by A Married Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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no one knows what they would do in this situation until their actually in this situation.

- Response by lmarks, A Life of the Party, Male, 26-28, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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No clue what I'd do. Hopefully, I'd have the sense/courage to call the cops and at least report it. But considering how often people do nothing because they assume that someone else has already done it...no clue.

- Response by veraxaudeo, A Player, Female, 22-25, Detroit, Student

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depend...if he wasn't that big...intervene. If he was, try to get three or four other guys and then subdue him. In the meantime, call the police.

- Response by tomtomcat, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, New York, Teaching

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I actually found myself in this situation and it was with a couple that I knew and fortunately, I was with one of my nephews and he helped subdue the guy while I called the cops and helped his girlfriend...unfortunat ely, she wouldn't press charges and me and my nephew had to go testify for her because the cops ended up charging the boyfriend for assault causing bodily harm and he ended up in jail for two years(wasn't the first time he had an assault charge)...so I would do it again, especially if it meant stopping someone else from being hurt...:D

- Response by fastball, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Edmonton, Student

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Oh most definitely. I could never just stand there and do nothing! I'd immediately call 911, and go over there and do something. I'd be an idiot if I didn't.

- Response by mel01234, A Life of the Party, Female, 18-21, Toronto, Fashion

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Of course I would try to intervene, if the assailant wasn't too big. And I would definitely try to help the woman.

- Response by betterbird, A Creative, Male, 46-55, San Francisco, Administrative

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I would get involved... just as I would hope someone else would come to my rescue if I needed it

- Response by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Who Cares?

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Knowing me........my mouth would probably intervene. i can't stand to see anybody assaulting anybody, man or woman or child.....but if I did not personally intervene myself, I would DEFINITELY be on the phone to 911 and to also call my BF who is a detective.

- Response by jpm51, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Baltimore, Administrative

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If I saw ANYONE being assaulted I'd do something to intervene.

- Response by hnimsoc, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Edmonton, Retired

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I have before, called the police..the bum ran off...but was caught, she didn't really want my help...but i did at least stop the ass hole from beating her.
One thing it could be anyone, i will call for help, if I can't physically do anything..we must all CARE to do something!


- Response by pinknblu, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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I'd certainly intervene first and then talk cops later...

- Response by tiger8urkat, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45

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I would hit the guy with a flying tackle and kick his butt.

..like I always have before. ;)

- Response by stillagoodguy1, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Celebrity

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I'd call the police. I'd call the police if it was a man getting beat up, too... would I personally get involved? It really depends on the situation. If I felt I could diffuse the situation I would try to do that. Being a small woman, though, I probably wouldn't try to take on a large man unless I had a couple of friends to back me up or a gun on me.

- Response by curvysmartgirl, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Dallas, Artist / Musician / Writer

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it depends on how bad the situation is.

- Response by prettysoul21, A Thinker, Female, 18-21

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I would report it. I kind of figure you treat people the way you'd want to be treated...and in that situation I'd need help whether or not I wanted to admit it. Violence is never the answer.

- Response by zhzfs5, A Cool Mom, Female, 22-25

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i would not intervene personally, because i would fear for my own safety (in the case that there is no one else around, because that's usually when situations like this happen), but i would keep a safe distance, hidden from what happened, call the police and take note on the assaulter's discription, and what i saw happen. i would give my information anonymously, but i would further speak to the police in privacy if they needed me to. for my own safety purposes, i would not have myself seen in courtrooms, or publicly.

- Response by xokimmierose, A Life of the Party, Female, 18-21, Toronto

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