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| Dating / 3:23 AM - Wednesday October 21, 2009 |
am i being dumb or being mature?so me and my boyfriend for over 6 months just started college together. before we went i was in this summer program and we coudnt see each other as much as we usually did. so he told me since we were gonna be at the same school dont worry about it we will see each other. so school started, i live on campus and he is a commuter and i havent seen him since i left for campus. i mean he comes all the way out here for school and dont even try to meet up with me. he has never seen my apartment style suit/dorm because i go to columbia. i keep trying to leave him because i feel that he isnt putting in effort. if it was the other way around i would try and see him at least the days i am in school. i let him know how i feel and he still doesnt try im gonna give up because im slowly losing interest seriously but he wont let go. what should i do????!! - Asked by novelistia, A Life of the Party, Female, 18-21 |
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The sooner you get rid of him the sooner you will move on. Sometimes a person wont let go they like to hold on to everything yet they neglect the other person. It is a good idea that you dont wait for what he says and take a plung and move forward. Keep your memories but while your young make mental and positive energy for new opportunities. At your age the world has so much. Nobody deserves to be neglected and be refused to move forward. Maybe he is keeping you for insurance incase he cant. Be right to yourself. Best wishes.
- Response by A Sportif, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?
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Try not to fuss over this, even though you're worried, upset/frustrated. you're there to study, so get busy studying. let him miss you and let him initiate dates. If he doesn't, then so be it. you'll meet someone who'll be willing to put an effort and emotions into a relationship. you're so young and don't miss the opportunity of becoming a good specialist in your field. there are thousands of great guys out there... just trust me and focus on your education ok? good luck!
- Response by chichek, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Other Profession
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"i let him know how i feel and he still doesnt try im gonna give up because im slowly losing interest seriously but he wont let go. what should i do????!!"
- Response by randyl, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Consulting
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He won't let go? Uh? Take a deep breath and dump him - life's too short to waste on guys like that. At your age you should be having fun not worrying about people like him. Start living your life - you'll regret it later on - meet new people, don't worry about anything - do what YOU want to do, not anyone else!
- Response by davidattheraces, A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Sheffield
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If he's not putting the effort up, then find out why. He maybe seeing someone and that may be why he's not around, but for class. Move on, he may just trying to keep you hanging on.
- Response by lifestyle, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Houston
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If he knows how you feel and still isnt putting any effort at all into your relationship is he actually really worth it? I would maybe just let him go even though it might be hard.
- Response by alirawwr, A Trendsetter, Female, 18-21, Sheffield
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Honestly, I think the relationship in in a period of winding down and I think you should let it go. It needs to be a two way street and it appears as if he is not putting in the effort required to make the relationship work. You are being mature.
- Response by nautix06, A Creative, Male, 29-35, Self-Employed
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Set your time machine, for December 22, 2012.
- Response by geester, A Creative, Male, 46-55, Celebrity
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