I can't believe how many people attacked this girl and dumped all the blame on her, painting her as some sort of heartless woman and her husband as a superhuman martyr.

People need to be aware of the fact that war is devastating not only to those who are involved in combat, but to their families at home.

I have gone through the same thing as she has. I don't know the details of her situation are, but I can tell you that being a spouse of someone involved in a war was the most painful, complex, difficult thing I have ever experienced.

I'm sure we all have people close to us who have been involved in this war. I think it's imperative for us, as a country, to heal from this national trauma, that we not be so quick to judge others who have been hurt by it.



Update: May 17, 2008.
I am not very good at remembering who posted what, so in fairness to those of you who insist I don't know the full story, I went back at looked at some of her old posts (just ones that were listed in her profile). I didn't see any posts where she complained about her SO, although I did see several where she said she missed him, he was her best friend, she thinks he's sexy blah blah. As far as the boob thing, thats weird, but I don't see how it has to do with anything. The guy chose to marry her anyway, so obviously he's ok with it. Who cares. Regarding the "he's fighting for his country and doesn't need any crap from her"... all I can really say, is that it would be lovely if life were that black and white. If it were all one big hollywood movie where wives waited patiently and stoically for their men to return home from war and their husbands kissed their wives pictures every night before bed and all human emotions and needs were suspended for years until the man returned from war, they embraced at the airport and lived happily ever after, I would agree. Nice dream. Unfortunately, it's not that simple. Obviously I am projecting my own experience here. I won't get into the details, but I will say that I took the "he's a hero at war" stance, tried hard never to add to his stress, never fought with him, supported him as much as humanly possible, etc. and things still didn't work out. So, whatever, if you want to attack a woman who has a husband at war and a child to take care of, just because she is imperfect, that's fine, but I don't think it's very cool.