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Bi-Racial Relationships
Bi-Racial Relationships / Dating / 3:12 PM - Friday May 16, 2008
A Career Man (Male, Los Angeles, 22-25, Financial / Banking) asked:


So, what's your opinion on bi-racial relationships. I'm Latin, and my S/O is Caucasian. I ask, because she claims that everytime we go out, people look at us wierd. My response "Ya, I know I'm ugly, so..." lol. But in all seriousness, your opinions are appreciated



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A Creative (Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: uniquelyme2


No big deal at all. I'm Caucasian, my ex-husband is Latin, and our two children are beautiful.


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A Thinker (Female, 26-28) answered:


It really is a matter of what makes you, as a couple, happy. Everyone has their own opinion. Free will and living in America, ya know. Personally, I find nothing wrong with it. The more cultured a person is, the more they have to offer the narrow minded!

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A Thinker (Female, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: southjerseygirl


I live in a predominently black/mexican area. My son has been dating a black girl for almost a year. I love her to death. She is like a daughter to me. People are people. That's what I taught my children and that's what I believe myself.

I think if you find love in your life, you should hold onto it with everything you have. Race is not a factor.

Who gives a shit if people want to look. That is their issue, not yours.

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A Player (Female, New York, 22-25, Financial / Banking) answered:

Screenname: augustbaby82


Bi-racial relationships are beautiful. And bi-racial couples make the cutest babies!!!!!!!

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: wolfspirit


wow....

I have heard that cali has more bi-racial relationships than any other state *just due to the amount of Asians that live there...

but to answer your Q --- they don't bother me in the slightist
People are People No Matter the Nationality - and two people in love are Just That ---------- Two PEOPLE in Love !!!!!




~wolfie

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A Career Woman (Female, Tampa, 26-28, Science / Engineering) answered:

Screenname: audbal82


She prolly finds it annoying. A while ago I dated a black guy for a year and half ... and I'm *plus sized* ... The fat white chik with the black guy sterio type drove me nutts. Not to the point of not going out or breaking up. But it was annoying.

Also ... you have grown up "not white" so ur probably oblivious to most rude looks or whatever. She is not ... it's rather new for her. Friends of mine have said to me in the past (in the club and stuff) that hot lil chicks give me dirty looks when I'm talking to a hot guy ... (oh no . fat chick talking to a hot guy.LOL) but I never notice it ... I've been fat all my life. I hope u get my point. I kinda rambled on... and on. LOL

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: spitfire815


It's no big deal now adays.. It's 2008 for God's sake..
Maybe ur g/f is just being paranoid......Being Latin, does that mean ur Puerto Rican, italian, what?? I guess i'm latin also, i'm italian....lol

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A Cool Mom (Female, Cincinnati, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: luckyinkentucky


they look at you funny in LA? They really don't even get a second glance here anymore and I live in KY! lol

I don't care who people date.

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A Mr. Married Guy (Male, New York, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: cmgr


If two people love each other and want to be together it does not make any difference what race they are. We all have the same heart inside!!

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Retired) answered:

Screenname: ivoryfresh


I have absolutely NO problem with bi-racial relationships. I think as long as the two people involved love one another and are good to each other, live and let live. And some of the most beautiful babies in the world are bi-racial. For that alone how could it be wrong?

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A Mr. Married Guy (Male, 56-65, Science / Engineering) answered:

Screenname: welloone


I checked out your profile. I think you are closer to being right than her.

I think people are saying "wow, how did that guy manage to snag a woman like that"

Seriously, you really are not that ugly. But people are in general. So, I think there is some people who note the bi-racial aspect of your relationship. Positively or negatively. I think there are some people who note that she is much better looking than you are. I think there are some people who think you make a nice looking couple. And I think that there are some people who look at about everyone.

And, I think she is a little self conscious about the bi-racial aspect of it, and reads her concern into everyone's stare. She is right some of the time. Wrong a lot more.

But you do need to have a serious discussion about her feelings about this. Otherwise she would laugh it off like you do. Something is bothering her, and you need to try to get her to understand it.

Good luck.

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A Thinker (Female, Detroit, 26-28, Administrative) answered:

Screenname: trucksnastygirl1


I don't see anything wrong with them at all. People who do are ignorant and probably just followed in the footsteps of their parents because they are not smart enough to think for themselves.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Philadelphia, 36-45, Political / Government) answered:

Screenname: ddkk


First, you can say white. We don't mind that.

As for bi-racial. I was in a resuturant today and there was two bi-racial coules. Several groups of bi-racial people.

I really believe people make more out of this then needs to be said.

But that is just me.

We all need a group hug.

|| DK ||

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A Married Girl (Female, 36-45, Student) answered:

Screenname: 1sassychic


I see absolutley nothing wrong with it, Love is color blind. If those are pics of you two in your profile you are a very goodlooking couple, maybe thats why people stare.:)

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, 36-45, Political / Government) answered:


This happened to me when I was married to my ex. It was mostly hispanic women, particularly the older ones, that would give me the strange looks.

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A Career Woman (Female, Charlotte, 29-35, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: thottienc


I'm Black (Dad is biracial). I've dated White, Greek, Italian and currently dating Spanish guy. I've never noticed any odd looks except once in TX in a predominantly Hispanic area and once in Kentucky where I don't think they've seen any other race besides White in many years. Lol The Hispanic women in TX gave me an evil and yet confused eye because he hails from Spain, not Mexico. He looks more Mediterranean so they weren't quite sure what he was but he speaks with an accent. Lol He dated a white lady before me and he said her crew looked at them funny but hit on him behind closed doors. Lol

We met at Church. There's almost more Biracial couples and families there than Black or White. It just doesn't matter to us and I hope it doesn't matter to you.



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A Thinker (Female, Dallas, 29-35, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: kdtxchic30


OK you live in CA and I would think that Latin and Caucasin relationships are pretty common and I wouldn't think that this would be an issue.

Now I live in TX and this combination is pretty common here too! Now I will say that if you put a Latin with an African American I think you would still get some stares. African American and Caicasian seems to be more accepted as the years go on, but not some much with Latins and African Americans.

I think it all takes time, but really there is so little difference in skin coloring that I highly doubt they are staring at you because your a bi-racial couple. I think maybe they are staring at you because the two of you put off a positive energy when you walk in the room.

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A Guy Critical (Male, Dallas, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: tleeb


i'm in a interracial marriage so i see no problem with it. If other people have a problem that's on them. I think your S/O may be uncomfortable with it a bit. so she more aware of what others may be thinking. in time she will not even notice others people looking.

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A Thinker (Female, New York, 29-35, Teaching) answered:

Screenname: electragold21


As a woman who has been attracted to Asians and Blacks for a very long time (my first partner was Indian), I can say that I certainly have no problem with bi-racial relationships.

Why should you care what other people think? Be happy with each other and do things to make each other happy. You should mean the world for each other.

And I love what augustbaby said--bi racial couples DO make the cutest babies. :)

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, Seattle, 46-55, Science / Engineering) answered:

Screenname: electroman


I am in the same type of relationship as you. I really don't notice but sometimes we are looked at strange, from both sides.
Here in Seattle there are a lot of bi-racial couples and no one pays them no mind. Personally I don't care. It doesn't effect my lifestyle one bit

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A Hip-Hop Guy (Male, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: sweetncharmn1


I'm Asian, so I think bi-racial relationships are great. I know some cultures frown upon it because they think it leads the end of their culture's existence.
People are people, dating for love is more important than limiting yourself to your own nationality/culture. We search long and far for the right person. To say, that you can't or shouldn't date ONE particular person because of their background is a bit silly to me in today's society.
Aren't we suppose to be all God's children? Aren't we suppose to treat people like we want to be treated???

Love people for who they are. Not what they are.

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, Pittsburgh, 46-55, Self-Employed) answered:

Screenname: bigcurt


In our area you would get strange looks if you were with a person of the same race

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A Trendsetter (Female, 36-45, Retail) answered:

Screenname: msgg


Love is colorblind and for those who are looking they could be looking out of curiosity. In the early days of my marriage I noticed a stare occasionally, but never gave it any thought. My husband is Asian and I am colorblind. Ha, no I am caucasian American!
Not too long ago I had a male, ethnic co-worker ask me if noticed people staring at us. I told him that I did not know if they were or not. I really do not and if they are then they are looking, so what. If they have a problem with it then it is their problem, not mine...


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A Father Figure (Male, 66 or older, Retired) answered:

Screenname: dmncowboy


i am an older guy of the generation that may frown on it however my opinion is go for it as now days it is quite execpable and i see nothing wrong at all good luck and dont detracters get to you

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A Life of the Party (Female, 29-35) answered:

Screenname: claus


I couldn't care less. As long as you two are happy, no one should care about your relationship. Honestly though, you two don't even look like you're from different races.

I bet they look at you guys because she is a babe! Sorry, she's much hotter, they are more likely to be looking at that! You must be a great guy to have gotten such a beautiful woman, good for you xo

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An Alternative Girl (Female, Philadelphia, 36-45, Body Work) answered:

Screenname: kitten528


It depends on the neighborhood that you live in. I see no problem with it, I've been in plenty of bi-racial relationships. I lived in New York and people still looked at us funny! In some areas it's REALLY not accepted...so, if you bring children into it...well, it's not just about you anymore...

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A Creative (Female, 36-45, Teaching) answered:

Screenname: guillermina


Damon is absolutely correct. Hispanic is not a race. Fortunately, many colleges and other institutions are making the distinction on their applications. You maybe have a distinct look, just like you can often tell when someone is Italian or Irish by the way they look, but that doesn't mean you are a completely different race. Ask your parents where their ancestors came from. I'm sure they'll say Spain (white), Africa or whatever, not hispania.

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, Chicago, 36-45, Medical / Dental) answered:

Screenname: happygolcky


To each his own. I am white and have dated white men, black men and latino men. In my opinion, and of course Dr. Martin Luther King, A man should be judged by the content of his character not the color of his skin.

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A Thinker (Female, Cleveland, 29-35, Student) answered:

Screenname: seductivepisces9


Interracial dating is not like a person "dating" a dog or a turtle.

Why can't people get over it already?? Skin color has absolutely no weight in what a person is truly like.

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A Creative (Female, Los Angeles, 56-65, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: lovelight


People stare for all different reasons..some have "attitudes" while others are just curious.

Try not to let it get you down.
Just be happy, smile, and focus on your sweetie.
She will like that and forget about everyone else and their "people watching" obsession.

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A Thinker (Female, 56-65, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: marc01


It's an all in your mind problem. Try real hard not to be concentrating on what others think, first of all, you don't know what another is thinking. Perhaps you and ur s/o looks very good together.
I can speak from a been there done that position. While in NY I dated a Jewish guy who was filled with fun, I am a Black african but I was the one uncomfortable with it. He never reacted in no way to the stares. When I moved back south, he couldn't come down too often because he was secure in his job up there but I was so tired of the big city, I neede a move-change. Now my b/f is much younger, we get stared at all, he is mixed, american/African and looks almost Italian. We love one another and that is what's important. You won't come to this conclusion overnight but eventually you'll be all right. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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A Creative (Female, 36-45, Student) answered:

Screenname: fastball


My opinion is that love knows no color, no race, no religion and is a meeting of the hearts...if other people cannot 'handle' seeing two people of different races in a happy, loving relationship, that's their problem, not yours...be happy in knowing that you have found something that many of us are still seeking...true love...:D

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A Guy Critical (Male, Tampa, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: tonytoni001


Dude, you need to find out why she is noticing it because it should not be an issue. I went thru the same exact thing with my ex and it ended up a problem that was waiting to come out with her. It should not matter to her about the racial difference, if she loves you then thats good enough. There is no need to try to please people. Nip it in butt! Good luck!

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, Sacramento, 46-55, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: rhunt0210


A few days ago, I wrote on A/O about the pioneer of ending the ban on interracial relationships (marriage) just died. In 1967, it was illegal in over 18 states for "races" to intermarry, particularly between blacks and whites. So, it's been just 40 years since that ban was eliminated.

My opinion on interracial relationships is it's great and strengthens the gene pool. Of course, there isn't much difference between people. Just because a person's ancestors may come from a different part of the world, we're all homo sapians and able to reproduce with one another. Just because you're from different "races" doesn't mean that you don't have much in common. You may be more in tune with her than any other person in the world. And that is what makes you compatible with one another.

I'm so glad that it's 2008, instead of 1958. Of course, Lucy and Desi Arnaz broke that barrier for you. That Latin was able to kiss and cause impregnation of his White wife in front of the American television public. Can you imagine that happening between Blacks and Whites back then?

Some entertainment careers were suddenly ended when a White woman was seen with a Black man. Conversely, White men were allowed to keep their Black women. Lena Horne, Diane Carol, Michelle Nickle's/"Uhura" (Star Trek creator Gene Roddenberry's lover) all were linked to White men and kept their careers alive. Of course, in our society, Whites have believed that it was more acceptable for White men to be with "exotic" women, versus White women to be with "ethnic" men. The theory behind that is that the White woman is the vessel for continuing the White race. That was the theory for the making of the racist propaganda movie, "Birth Of A Nation". It was also the beginning of the legitimacy of the KKK. When a White man spreads his seeds to another race, that's diluting that race, but it shouldn't work in reverse, I'm told.


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A Thinker (Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: ladywisteria


Ignore the ignorant people that give you and your s/o looks, what do they know!

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55) answered:

Screenname: ldykarla


it would appear that my opinion and even your opinion is not the problem. It appears your S/o has issues. I think you need to take a look at what her real views on the plausability of a bi-racial relationship are. She might not be as much in favor of it as... you are.

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An Alternative Girl (Female, Washington, DC, 26-28, Teaching) answered:

Screenname: pregunta


people should just date whoever they are attracted to and f the haters. there are people who will always say shit: if you date an older guy, you're a golddigger; if you date a younger guy, you're a cougar, if you date a waiter, you're wasting time with a deadbeat, if you date an Asian, you have yellow fever....etc.....so people will always say stuff. Just tune it out! i dated a black guy for awhile and people said stuff but I didn't care. latin and caucasian don't even look that different! lol

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An Alternative Girl (Female, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: gbanga


You know, i dont really have an opinion on it, over here its so normal that i dont notice it.. I even prefer to date outside my race.. im more attracted to other races.

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A Hippie Chick (Female, Washington, DC, 18-21, Student) answered:


I think race doesn't matter. As long as their is love that's all that matters.

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: headscratching


maybe not a racial thing. they could be wondering what this beauty is doing with your ugly ass . or, could she be a little paranoid and people are looking or not looking at you same as anyone else

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: sugarsweet


that's just peoples.
i really do belive, that's just the nature of peoples being human.
if you would notice with-in yourself, if you see someone of your race with another race
or to see another dating out side their race, you find yourself looking.
not that you have a issue with it.
it also fell, we do it at times, not even relizing we are.


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A Guy Critical (Male, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: tiger8urkat


It makes no neva mind to me!!!!!! People like that are nuts.............

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An Engaged Guy (Male, Norfolk, 26-28) answered:

Screenname: damon8r


According to the US Government regulations, Latinos are not a separate race and you're technically Caucasian. So it's not a biracial relationship.

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