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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 36-45, Law Enforcement) answered: Screenname: theguyinct
Some people "seem" to find love so easily because that's just how things work. Maybe it's really true or maybe they (as you put it)just "seem" to. Regardless of this, it's better off if you stop worrying about what happens to others and concentrate on yourself instead. You should ask yourself, if some people find love over and over again, are they really that lucky? Isn't the "goal" of love to find the one person that does it the most for you? And if it isn't "real love" then what the hell good is it? I know several people who settle for just having someone with them, but in my opinion, I'd much rather be alone than ever have to settle for someone I'm not in love with.
You say that you've fallen in love but aren't giving us enough information with which to base an accurate assessment of your situation. He's ignoring you and he was mad at you for what? Did you do something that made him angry or something that would make him have to ignore you? Did you cheat on him? If I were him and you did that to me, I'd have to say I'd probably react the same way..I'm just being honest here. I can certainly understand your confusion, but you have to ask yourself if it was something you did to make him be in this frame of mind. If it truly wasn't something you did, then he's just being immature and/or playing hard to get. Yes, even some guys have been known to do that. It doesn't sound like that's the case though, so the only way to get to the bottom of why he won't be your friend anymore (or boyfriend) if that was truly the case would be to sit down and have a talk with him. You should only do this after he's calmed down a bit and in a neutral place.
The other problem that it seems you have is that you're allowing people to pressure you about your relationships. That's a no-no. It really shouldn't matter what the hell your family thinks about you settling down, unless you were making a mistake and they wanted to tell you to wait a while. In that case , it'd seem like they were doing you a favor. You have to see that you're still young and there's a lot of time left. What's the rush to settle down? When you rush things many times you end up making big mistakes, and making big mistakes having to do with your relationships are about the worst you can make. Your last statement should serve you well if you heed it's advice. Only settle down with someone that you love and that you know for sure really loves you. Never settle for just anyone because they're there and you have no one else. And never settle down because your family expects you to or you think that your biological clock is ticking. Try to look at it this way...There's approximately 6 billion people in this world. About half of them are men. Those are pretty damn good odds for you as a woman. Maybe try expanding your horizons and living a full life. Do what makes you happy and try to make yourself the best possible person that you can be. After all that, I'd say your recipe for success in finding a deserving mate will pay good dividends. Good luck to you!
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