I sooo need to vent and need your advice. I'm an unmarried 34 year old - an only child whose mother passed away 5 years ago. My mom left me a substantial amount of money and real estate. I invested some of the money, gave some to my father, took one or two trips to Europe, opened a scholarship in my mom's name, and gave the rest to Uncle Sam. I have $200,000 left which may seem like a lot but I own a home and need that cushion for emergencies and possibly to pay my real estate taxes which are $11,000 per year.

Every now and then I send presents to my relatives in South America who are in the middle - upper middle class down there. I also sent my Aunt $1000 to help rebuild her home there. My relatives keep asking for expensive gifts like laptop computers. I rarely hear from them unless they need something.

In addition, my father is really bad with money (credit card debt, etc)and I advised him to sell an apartment my mother left to him as investment property so that he can pay his bills and have money to live off of. He doesn't want to sell the property and expects me to pay his bills based on my savings even though I recently lost my job and am looking for a new one.

Am I wrong for feeling used ? I think it's unfair to expect a 34 year old to support extended family and to give savings away to a father who has property he can sell. What's your view ?