My girlfriend and i have been ...

untitled / Dating / 10:35 PM - Wednesday September 13, 2006

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 18-21, Student) asked:

my girlfriend and i have been having some issues lately and she needs some space so we decided to "go on a break". My question is, what is "going on a break" besides just not talking. we said we arent gonna hook up or date anybody else, but we are "on a break". what does this mean? what is a break to yall?

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A Career Man (Male, 26-28, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: mrfranks

it means that she gets to decide the rules. "breaks" are rarely good things

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A Guy Critical (Male, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: dcr518

yeah, I hate to say it- but your gf calls the shots-
she may or maynot go out with anyone- but she is
going to think it over and decide yes or no
about you, and even if you decide yes-
you need to just wait for her response.
So, is it a breakup ?-
well, maybe yes, maybe no- just go
on as if no is always possible.

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A Trendsetter (Female, 18-21, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: sarahsoda17

My ex and I went on a break just before our one year and ever since that our relationship shifted. Knowing he had doubts about our relationship and needed space caused me to distrust his feelings for me more often. We made it to two years and just recently broke up. Trust was a huge issue. He always said things like "I dont know what I want right now" and hearing that all the time never feels good.

Breaks can be okay when you use them right though. If your taking time to grow personally and figure out some things in your life. If your family is going through a rough time or whatever its sometimes nessisary. However lots of the time people use it as an easy way out until they can get the courage to just end it for good.

*hugs* I hope everything works out. Break ups are always hard...

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A Cool Mom (Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: adventurine

It means I am taking some time to look around and see whats available and If I cant find anything else I will take you back. If I do, I will tell you I thought it over and we werent meant to be. So sorry, but better you get it straight up and deal with it. Take care....

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, San Francisco, 36-45, Financial / Banking) answered:

Screenname: hardbull

It means taking a break from each other to relieve the stress of the relationship and to evaluate it. At this stage it usually moves on to break up, because the break allows the other persons feelings to subside while you are apart and the time apart helps build their strength for the break up. If two people truly want to be together they will stay together and work it out, not take a break.

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A Player (Male, Boston, 29-35, Technical) answered:

Screenname: thomasd

it depends who initiated it. Basically the one who initiated the break (Asked for some space) is already sleeping with someone else and does not want to feel guilty about it.
I know it isn't what you wanted to hear. But it's the truth.

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