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A Rebel (Male, San Jose, 22-25, Internet / New Media) asked:


is there ever a situation where a female has to pay child support for her child, or is this the double standard men have to face.... if it was up to me i wouldnt even bother trying to get child support from the other parent, cause i believe its my FULL responsiblity to support my own. but im just wondering what yall think of this


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A Cool Mom (Female, Cincinnati, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: luckyinkentucky


Yes, but it's rare that mothers leave their children. It takes two income to raise a child, that's why letting child support go unpaid on purpose is cheating your child. Child support is part of my job, so I hate these lowlives that think every dollar they send in is a priviledge, that's your job!

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A Cool Mom (Female, 22-25, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: mishell223


yes,depending who has custody, the other parent pays child support. no, its not one persons "FULL" responsability. its both. 2 people make it, two people should pay. not only pay, but be an active part of the childs life.

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A Thinker (Female, Dallas, 29-35, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: kdtxchic30


Well this is not a double standard. The reason why it seems this way is that the majority of the time the mother gets custody of the children and in turn the man is required to pay child support. I do know a few men that have custody of their children and the mothers are required to pay child support. I understand that you believe that it is your full responsibility to support your children on your own, but allot of the time this is not a workable situation. I receive child support from my ex-husband but there was a period of time when I didn't get any (1 yr), so now I treat it as a bonus and make sure that I can support my son without his money.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, St.Louis, 22-25, Technical) answered:


Both of my step brother's moms were supposed to, neither did. I've also known alot of other kids who lived with their fathers and their mothers never paid anything...I don't think its a double standard, because I'm pretty sure they are supposed to though...getting them to is another story though.

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A Mr. Married Guy (Male, Miami, 36-45, Political / Government) answered:

Screenname: greekattorney


While it is rare, some women do have to pay child support. The vast majority of children live with the mother, which is why men are usually paying child support, but there are cases where the children live with the father and the mother pays child support.

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A Life of the Party (Female, Baltimore, 22-25, Executive) answered:

Screenname: dawnmaria1


I am a divorced woman and the courts determined that I should pay child support for my two children because thier Dad has them throughout the week while I only have them on the weekends. I don't mind at all, he needs the money for their school supplies and everything else that children need. I only know one other woman who pays child support though, it does seem like that's a mans burden.

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A Career Woman (Female, 26-28, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: missjess


Yes, I know a female who pays child support. It took 2 people to make the child, so BOTH are fully responsible.

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A Cool Mom (Female, Los Angeles, 26-28, Medical / Dental) answered:

Screenname: terc562


Well I put my babyfather up for child support I haven't gotten a dime for my daughter.

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A Cool Mom (Female, Minneapolis, 29-35) answered:

Screenname: sweetwhysper


I work for Child Support Enforcement for the State of Minnesota, and a woman paying child support is much more common than you think. There are about half the dead-beat moms as there are dead-beat dads. It is definitely not a double standard, the child's well being is put first. You should try to get support from the other parent, if you don't NEED it to support the child, open a savings account for said child and they can use it towards college once they become of age. PLUS remember this...just because you don't NEED it now, doesn't mean you wont need it in the future. The job market is shaky, and you cannot predict the future.

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A Rebel (Male, Buffalo, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: jwc812


My situation is I have my kids and the mother has to pay child support. It is only fare. If she had the kid she would want it. Besides you did not have the kids on your on. It is her responsibility to help raise them as much as it is yours.


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A Trendsetter (Female, 29-35, Civil Service) answered:

Screenname: sizzl


I'm curious about what you mean "cause i believe its my FULL responsiblity to support my own". The children are BOTH parents responsibility. Whoever has physical custody should get support.

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A Cool Mom (Female, 36-45, Retired) answered:

Screenname: atf44


I don't understand why someone would not want to take care of a child(ren) they helped to bring into this world. I find it AMAZING when a couple gets separated/divorced the child(ren) is now the sole responsibility of the custodial parent. I've heard things like, "We're not a family anymore", "the children don't live with me full time". BS! BS! BS! Many feel that Child Support is for the custodial parent and not in support of the child and that's why some don't want to contribute. I'm a single parent of 3, and have taken full responsibility for my children because you become so frustrated with the system when you finally decide to apply for child support and you wait and wait and wait for results and get nothing while the deadbeat parent is laughing because they know how to not get caught. There should be more consequences for those that avoid paying.

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A Creative (Female, 56-65, Lawyer) answered:

Screenname: grammomof6


Paying child support if you are not the custodial parent is the law in all fifty states. There is no double standard. If you are the non-custodial parent, you pay. If you don't, you are a jerk who will be the loser when your child grows up and you miss the love and the relationship and future you could have had with your son/daughter. If you are the custodial parent and the other parent is not paying, hang in there. And, consult an attorney.

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A Thinker (Female, Atlanta, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: bellabyrdie


there are plenty of situations where a woman has to pay child support. Thats usually when the father has primary custody or full. I thinks not as typical because most children live with primarily thier mothers rather than their fathers. i think it has to be mandated. And it is your full responsiblity to care for your child, but it is also the other parent's responsiblity to do the same. Exempting one parent is ridiculus and cheats the child and the other parent. Paying child support also (usually not always) entitles that parent to certain rights.

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