The bf and I have decided to take a break and figure out where we want are relationship to go. We also told each other clearly, that we want to get back together after the break. Does anyone have suggestions about how to make the break work? I know that it's possible we may decide to split for good, but I want to avoid that. How do you spot a well-intentioned break from a dishonest break?

i've been with my boyfriend for a year and 1/2 and i have 1 kid and we were supposed to break up but his friend told him not to break up with me so we didn't break up and we took a break from each other until he can resolve the problem with his step parent. he said to me that we'll be together real soon and it been happen before and they try to set him up with some chick but he don't want to date anybody else but me only we love each other very much but we can't see each other we did took a break before but we did get back together again. I don't know what to do anymore.

Do you break-up with a guy to teach him a lesson, leaving open the possibility for getting back together; or when you break-up with a man is it because you finally have given up on his bullshit and he went too far and that's it?

How is a man to know the difference between a serious break-up and a teaching him a lesson sort of break-up?

I'm so sensitive that any break-up occurance hurts so much I run for cover and I want to know when I shouldn't fade away so fast.

Thanks for the help.

If you and your b/f are on a "break", how do you go back to non-break status? How do you know, if your ready or his is ready? It took me awhile to figure out the break idea, now how do you undo the break...
For us, we never really, stopped talking, etc. We still talk everyday. Nothing, has changed on this break, expet there are no more "I love you" and we don't visit each others homes. Like I said, we still talk everyday, every evening, and have lunch and breaks at work together.
I don't understand.
But I want nothing more then to end this break, but how do I go about it?
HELP...

Update: October 14, 2006.
we dated for a year,July 05 - Aug '06- never argeed, never even had a disagrement. If was a misunderstand, sometihng stupid, that sent us to this "break". It's only been about a month we've been on this break. End of Aug. He just called, he had to work today. Just to say, Hi and nothing much more. Hmm...

my girlfriend and i have been having some issues lately and she needs some space so we decided to "go on a break". My question is, what is "going on a break" besides just not talking. we said we arent gonna hook up or date anybody else, but we are "on a break". what does this mean? what is a break to yall?

we've already taken one break before... i don't want to break up, but i feel unhappy. issues keep popping up and we talk about it. some get resolved. others don't.

is it time to take another break?

or should i break up for good?

My boyfriend of 5 years and I decided to take a break. I am 26 and have an itch to be single. He has always said he loves me and wants to marry me but I am tired of waiting and instituted the break. Do any of you have experience on exactly what being on a break means? Do you think a relationship can survive a break?

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months. I thought things were going well, but the other night it came out that he's not "feeling it" -- he's not in love with me yet and isn't sure he ever will be. He's not sure if he wants to break up with me or not, he thinks it's likely that we will break up down the road and he doesn't want to lead me on, but he also enjoys my company and likes being around me and when we talk about breaking up he cries. Last night he said he's full of confusion and really isn't sure at all how he feels, basically.

I don't want to break up with him, but I know he has to sort out his feelings in his head. So we agreed to take a break starting after New Year's, which we're spending together. We'll have no contact at all for three weeks.

I've been in a number of relationships, but never taken a break during any of them. So I'm not sure what to expect. I'm trying not to get my hopes up that he'll want to stay with me after the break, but if I were being completely honest I'd have to admit that I do hope he misses me and decides he still wants me in his life.

So people, help me out. Have you taken a break like this before? How did it work for you? Tell me anything and everything.

A week ago my boyfriend told me that he thought we "needed a break" from each other right now because he is just too busy with work. (he works a full time job, and then goes and does side jobs for his business after that) Well, since then he's called me three times just to "see whats up." Why would he be calling me if he had just broken up with me? Is it possible the "break" is just really a break, and not a total break up? I'm confused...

ok so i asked a few days ago about my boyfriend and how i was going to need a break before we settled down in a few years. he knows we arent getting married for years and until after college but he wants to know for sure i will marry him when the time comes. I did tell him about the break and he just sees it as i want to fool around with other guys. i explained to him as best i could and will explain more later. my main thing is he said he shouldnt have to wait until i am ready for the break (i dont want one right now but i will eventually) he says why wait why not do it now. so i said fine lets break now and then it will just take longer because i dont need it now. but then he says he doesnt want to break now because he doesnt want me to need a break. but i do. what does everyone think. i love him so much and want to end up marrying him in the end but need to explore and not regret anything. help!